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October 22, 2008

Semper Fi

Boy soldier


My son hopped into the car today with all manner of Marine Corps merchandise. He had a book cover, a large poster and a pencil, all covered in Armed Services logos. I was a little surprised and asked him what he learned about the Marine Corps. Here's what I learned:

  • Marines carry guns and get to set off fireworks.
  • Marines blow up buildings.
  • And, my personal favorite, Marines get to help Santa Claus with his toys.

I explained to my son that Marines were very brave men and women who fought for their country and that they had to fight in wars and many unpleasant things in addition to blowing stuff up, setting off fireworks and filling in for Santa's elves. I dare say the recruitment techniques for the under-7 set have gotten a bit skewed. Is there really recruiting for the under-7 set? I'm not ready for that yet. Not even close.

April 11, 2008

I Can See Heaven

I am a stickler about car seat safety. In the field day of motherhood there are many events. Breastfeeding advocacy might be yours, or perhaps homeschooling. Mine is car seat safety. I'm a car seat Momzilla. My son looks like an oversized baby in his Britax. At five-years-old, he belongs in a Carseat booster seat, but I stress about his freedom of movement and the fact that his positioning, not the exceptional design of the car seat and straps, will determine his level of safety. I'm going to suck it up in August and get the kid a booster seat but, until then, my son's shoulders are still below the straps and I plan on making good use of that pricey seat.

I'm especially cautious when I have other people's children in the car with me. Every other Friday, I pick up my friend Candice's son, Cody. He goes to school with my son and they are great friends. I take them to lunch and then to my house for some play time. For this reason, I keep an extra car seat in my car, strapped in and ready to go. I had removed it, though, and moved the rear seat to move some big items so I had to reinstall it in the car line. I'm a stickler about installation and I always tug at the seat before Cody gets in it to make sure it hasn't loosened since the last time it was used. I went through this whole process when I picked Cody up last week. I made sure all three kids were strapped in well and I set off towards the golden arches.

There's only about a mile and two stoplights between McDonald's and my son's school. I was chatting  with the kids about the day's activities when I stopped, rather abruptly at the first light (it was pink). I heard a thud and looked in my rearview mirror. Cody was gone. Disappeared. Vanished. I freaked and called his name,

Me: Cody? Cody?

Cody: (calm) I'm here.

Me: Are you OK?

Cody: I can see heaven.

Thankfully, "heaven" was the sky, not the afterlife. While I had expertly installed the car seat, I had failed to lock the actual rear van seat into place (our seats flip back for tailgating purposes when they aren't locked). When I stopped quickly, the seat (with Cody in it), had flipped back so that Cody, still strapped into the car seat, was essentially lying down. He had been cushioned by the car seat so didn't bat an eyelash but it was pretty jarring to suddenly notice that one kid wasn't in the car anymore!

January 09, 2007

Uniformity

My friends and I talked at length today about public versus private schools. We live in an area in which the vast majority of people with the means to do so, send their children to private schools. The public school system in East Tennessee is less than stellar and there are several very successful private schools to choose from. There were six of us at the table, three of whom had children of elementary school age. Each of them sent their children to a different private school in the area, ranging in price from $4000 per year to $7000 per year. Of the three remaining Moms, two of us (including myself) planned on sending their kids to public school and one of us was undecided. It made for an interesting conversation.

Ever since I had my son, I knew that he would attend public school. Sending him to private school just wasn’t a possibility for three reasons. First of all, when I get right down to it, I cannot afford private school. In order to afford an additional $300-$500 per month, I would have to make major sacrifices and go back to work at least part time. Secondly, I do not feel strongly about my children receiving their education in a religious environment. I know many people do and, in that case, private or home schooling seem to be the only viable option. Finally, I went to public school and I turned out fine. I was consistently on the honor roll, performed well on all standardized tests, and got into the college of my choice. I doubt that the outcome of my life would be significantly different if my parents had opted to send me to a private school.  Maybe I'm wrong.  Perhaps if I had been exposed to the advantages afforded by private schools, I would be accepting my Nobel Prize right now but I seriously doubt it.  If a child is going to excel in school then they will do so regardless of whether the education is paid for with public tax dollars or with (in our case) a second mortgage. I just don’t think it matters all that much. Now, that being said, I think it is extremely difficult for even good students to excel in schools that are in very low-income areas. If I lived in an area where the schools were plagued by extremely low test scores, violence, high levels of teacher turnover, and major budgetary problems, I would likely find a way to move out of that area, home school, or make the necessary sacrifices to place my child in a private school. I am not attempting to make a blanket statement about the state of the American education system. Low-income schools were not a factor for us today because, by and large, the people who took part in the discussion were zoned for adequate public schools in fairly affluent areas.

Like most people, I tend to defend my positions with conviction when I don’t really have a choice whereas another person might. That was the case today. If I were to win the lottery tomorrow or my husband were to receive a significant raise in the next year, I might sing a different tune. Right now, though, I fully plan on sending my child to public school. It’s either that or find a way to work an additional $400 into the monthly budget. I cannot even bring myself to commit to a $40/month gym membership, I hardly think I am ready for a large tuition payment.

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